21 Undeniable Signs A Male Coworker Likes You

Ever found yourself wondering if your male colleague is overfriendly with you? Or are these signs your male coworker has a crush on you? There’s a fine line between harmless playful banter and oh-my-god-we-are-flirting kind of interactions. And if you’re having trouble distinguishing between both and constantly wondering whether your coworker is attracted to you or not, it’s easy enough to find out. Literally.

Let’s break it down so you can finally figure out if he’s just a colleague or your dream workplace romance in the making. Here are 21 undeniable signs a male coworker likes you and what you should do about it.

Signs A Male Colleague Likes You A Lot  

Does your male coworker pay a lot of attention to you? If your male colleague is overfriendly with you, lingering a little too long in conversations, or conveniently showing up wherever you are, chances are, he’s crushing on you. 

Handling workplace crushes can be tricky—one minute, you’re just collaborating like other colleagues on a project, and the next, you’re figuring out whether those lingering glances and playful banter mean your male coworker likes you. 

But how do you really know if he is into you or if he’s really just here for the teamwork? Let’s break down the 21 undeniable signs a male coworker likes you—because trust me, the clues are everywhere!

1. He constantly wants eye contact

One of the major signs a man fancies you – eye contact. In a man’s world, a woman’s eyes are the most beautiful things. Your orbs become the focus of his attention and you start to feel an increase in the eye contact between you both. Take this as a sign that you’re well past the stage of just being a workplace relationship. Maybe plan a trip to the human resources if you feel the same way about him (just a suggestion.)

2. He is somehow always around you

You start to feel like there’s a magnetic field around you for this guy. Like seriously – wherever you glance, he appears! Workplace flirting 101 – be around your crush all the time. If you are his work crush, he will become a workplace shadow. You will find him next to you at lunch, conveniently leaving at the same time as you, sometimes even entering at the same time as you! It means he is definitely crushing on you.

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3.  He remembers all the small things

How to know if a man at work likes you? Simple. Look closely at who seems attentive to your needs. Did you casually mention a hard to find snack a few months ago and suddenly find it on your desk? Does he like to discuss your favorite foods and songs? He clearly harbors a secret crush on you.

4. The office starts to feel like a rom-com when he’s around

When a guy likes you at work, your office life will start to feel as if you’re living your very own rom-com movie. From the flirtatious body language to the frequent workplace interactions, you start to imagine yourself as the protagonist of your very own office romantic comedy movie. Especially if the guy who likes you is your boss. That is a completely different genre of office romance for sure!

5. His body language screams out he likes you

There will definitely be non-verbal signs he likes you. Does he lean in when he talks? Does he mirror your gestures? Do his feet subconsciously point toward you? Does he find reasons to initiate physical contact? All of these are subtle body language signs he has feelings for you. 

6. Your jokes are suddenly funnier – but it’s only him laughing 

Signs he likes you more than you think? Number 1- laughing at your bad jokes. Does your male coworker find your jokes extremely funny these days? Take it as a sign your male coworker likes you. One of the most obvious signs a male likes you is him pretending to find your jokes funny. He is trying to be supportive and showing you that he appreciates your attempts to joke, no matter how poor you are.

7. Do you feel like ‘Jim and Pam’ 

If your office dynamic feels too familiar you start to wonder if you guys are Jim and Pam from The Office or just a platonic duo like Dwight and, well… everyone? Here’s how you tell the difference:

• Inside jokes only you guys understand
• Genuinely interested in your life
• Accidentally lunch breaking at the same time
• Pays attention to your words, likes and dislikes 
• Him staring at you 

If you notice these things then it is safe to say that you’re definitely Jim and Pam.

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8. He starts to get weirdly nostalgic

Is he always bringing up ‘How you first met at work’ instances nostalgically? That’s a sure sign that your male coworker is attracted to you. He starts bringing up these scenarios because he wants you guys to be more now – not just a workplace relationship, he wants you to be a part of his dating life now.

9. He is making an effort to be included in your social circle 

Out of the blue, you find out that he is besties with your work bestie. If he is actively trying to be recruited by your social circle, he is setting things up for you guys to go beyond a simple work friendship – maybe an epic workplace romance! He is trying to convey romantic interest in you and hoping you will reciprocate.

10. He starts to tell you his future plans – and somehow you’re a part of every single one

An obvious sign your male co likes you but is hiding it is that he starts to talk about his future plans around you a lot. And somehow you’re a feature in all of them! Are you hearing things like, “This year’s New Year party will be more fun with you,” or “You should come with me to xyz place this week?” He is just trying to keep you around so you realize his feelings for you.

11. He complains a lot about how hard it is to find someone like you

He starts to casually drop comments like:

• “If only I could find someone as cool as you”
• “Only you understand me”
• “If I could date someone like you, I’d always be happy”

These are not subtle signs – they’re straight-up love confessions wrapped up in an oops-sorry-I-just-said-that moment conveying his romantic interest in you. His hypothetically wishing for someone like you all the time is truly just him wishing for you to date him. Not only this, he will keep on pampering you with lovely compliments all through the day. For him, you are just the Goddess he always dreamt of.

12. His appearance starts to change – based on your likes

If you casually dropped a line about liking clean-shaved guys and the next day he shows up clean-shaved… Take this as a sign. Truly, that’s no coincidence. Whether it’s just switching colognes, growing facial hair, or wearing your favorite colors. This sudden change is one of the most telling signs a man fancies you.

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13. He always reacts first to your social media posts

You just posted a random story – and bam! he reacts first. That very second. Coincidence? not at all. You changed your profile picture – he notices first. If your male co worker is subtly stalking your online accounts and engaging with everything that you’re posting, it means he has a secret crush on you and is hiding it.

14. He finds innocent reasons to text you even after work hours

Sure, work messages are normal, but you now find him texting you about silly things after going home. After work hours your phone is now blowing up with texts like:

• “I know it’s late, but this meme is too good to not share.”
• “Such a crazy day today, right? Hope you’re relaxing now.”

It just means that he is trying to stay connected to you outside of work hours. That is exactly how guys tell you they like you over text.

15. Joey doesn’t share food – but he does with you 

Remember in FRIENDS, how Joey had trouble giving his best friend’s daughter a pea off his plate? If your male coworker is just like that, but somehow he is starting to share his food with only you, it is a sign he likes you more than you think. So if you were looking for non-verbal signs he likes you, here is the most important one.

16. Your absence is noted right away – and asked about as well

Take a day off, leave early, or reach late, or even if you step out for a longer than usual lunch break – he is the first one to notice. And the moment you return – sometimes even before you return – he is asking you “Where were you?” He is always keeping track of your work hours without realizing he is doing it. And if he is the first one to notice your absence, that’s a big clue that he has romantic feelings for you.

17. He’s picked up new hobbies and interests matching yours

Mentioned a TV show or movie in his presence? Boom, he suddenly is into that series. Told him about your love for cooking and he turned out to be a hobby baker too? Hmm, these are some serious coincidences that mean that he is trying to create more reasons to connect with you and is undeniably attracted to you.

18. He acts way more nervous around you than anyone else

Does he:

• Trip over his words or fidget when talking to you?
• Seem weirdly hesitant when approaching you but totally confident with others?
• Look away too quickly when you catch him staring?

If he’s more awkward around you than other colleagues, it’s not because he’s shy—it’s because you are his work crush.

19. He covers for you when you’re overworked or unable to work

This is a textbook sign that he is into you. Doing it sometimes out of professional courtesy is understandable, but if he is always up to take up your workload happily, or he covers up for your mistakes and takes the blame himself, isn’t it obvious? He is trying to show you how he would do anything for you.

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20. There’s a new nickname for you

He came up with a new nickname for you that is too cute. This new term of endearment came out of nowhere and is the only thing he calls you now – to the extent that you forgot your own real name! He is just showing his feelings to you and trying to get you to like him back just a little bit.

21. He is purposely telling you things no one else knows

Does he casually say things like:

• “I don’t usually talk about this, but…”
• “Honestly, I haven’t told anyone else, but…”
• “I feel like I can trust you with this.”

Him letting you in behind the emotional curtain is his way of telling you that his feelings go way deeper than just a workplace relationship. He is not shy to be vulnerable with you, he actually wants you to know him better. He wants to be your partner and is trying to make you a part of his life without being too obvious about it.

5 Things To Do When A Coworker Shows Signs He Likes You

Your romantic life is going to take a turn, whether for the better or worse, you are the one to decide. But if you’re looking for answers on what to do next now that you’ve determined your male co actually likes you, here’s your solution. 

1. Decide if you’re into him too

Just because your male coworker has feelings for you, doesn’t necessarily mean you reciprocate them. If you don’t, it’s perfectly fine to take a step back from the friendship and put some distance between you guys. This saves the other person’s feelings also from getting hurt and if your male coworker likes you genuinely, he would respect that.

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2. If not, keep work strictly professional

Separate your work life from your personal life. This means don’t discuss your love life, or any other personal stories at your workplace. Don’t show too much personal interest in their life or discuss personal stories.

3. Set strict boundaries

Keep workplace interactions strictly about work. No discussion of romantic interest, or relationship status in office. No playful banter, no harmless physical touches, just talk about work. This will put out the information that you’re not interested and your male coworker should hopefully back off. 

4. If you like him back, test the waters a bit

If you have a genuine interest in your male coworker spend time in his company to test out the waters. This will tell you if you also have a crush on him or not. If you do, try to spend time with him, and drop hints about your new deeper feelings for him. He should step up to ask you out.

5. Avoid office drama

Workplace romances can be tricky to navigate. Especially if it’s your boss, you can get in a lot of trouble, maybe even lose your job! keep things strictly professional until you’re both on the same page. Make sure you guys discuss what will happen if you guys don’t work out.

Whether it’s your boss exhibiting these flirty behaviors or one of your other married colleagues, stay aware of the signs to know whether they are being helpful or working their way to your heart. Whether he somehow ends up accidentally sitting next to you in every meeting or remembers your coffee order better than your best friend, there are plenty of signs a male coworker likes you—sometimes even hiding it.