21 Real Signs She Regrets Losing You

After a painful breakup, sometimes you wish it had never happened. Even after the end of a relationship, it is natural to wonder if it was the right decision. At times, partners move away from each other permanently, but at other times, you miss your ex and look for signs she regrets losing you. This is especially true if you are sure the reasons leading to the breakup could be handled maturely, without breaking off.

In case you feel your ex-partner regrets breaking up with you, these signs will help you decode her confused behavior and mixed signals. But first, let us explore if women do regret losing a good man.

Do Women Regret Losing A Good Man?

In short, yes.

If you are wondering what makes an ex regret losing you, then the below reasons should help you:

• She may regret losing you if she realizes you are the type of guy who really kept her happy
• A lady will regret breaking up with a man if she cannot find another as caring and loving as you
• A woman who is unhappy in her new relationship will definitely regret the breakup and reminisce the good, old times
• A woman who broke up in haste and was impatient may regret her immaturity at losing a good man like you

An interesting study on the topic of regret concluded that women regret lost love more than men, while men regret workplace mistakes. This indirectly shows how important relationships are for women, so even if she had led the breakup, it is not uncommon for her to regret her decision. 

Women can also be players, if they really want to come back in your life, without being the first one to make a move. They may make you feel guilty and blame you for their unhappiness, in an attempt to guilt trip you and make you come back to them. Yes, love makes people that crazy!

So how long does it take for the signs of regret in a woman to manifest themselves? There is no specific answer, but typically, a few weeks or a few months into a new relationship could make a woman regret her decision. Sometimes, the ego may put off the regret and it could be years before she understands what she has been missing all her life. This is how most extra-marital affairs with an old flame take shape.

21 Real Signs She Regrets Losing You

Even when couples break up for good, signs of regret over losing a relationship are pretty common. It is natural to wonder whether your ex misses you after splitting or not? So if you are wondering “will she regret leaving me”, then carefully browse through the  signs your ex regrets letting you go. And if you were really good to her, and your relationship was blossoming, then you will have your answer to whether “she regrets leaving a good man like me”.

Let’s dive straight to the signs.

1. She initiates contact with you

One of the  signs she broke up with you but regrets it deeply is when suddenly you get a text from her asking how you have been. And if you do not reply to her, there will be another one in a few days, asking if this is your number still. After weeks or months of no-contact, she will try to initiate contact with you because she still has feelings for you.

Not just texting, she might leave you messages on your social media handles, send you a reel or two, and drop a message on your whatsapp as well. All her efforts are directed to win you back, and she will try to do so by trying to frequently contact you, till you give in.

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2. She shows interest in your life

Once she has successfully established contact with you, she will be very interested in what you are doing in your life. She will want to know everything about you, such as:

• Are you still staying in the same apartment?
• How is work coming along?
• Are you seeing someone?
• How is your aging grandfather?
• Did you finally send that draft of your dream book to the publisher yet?

Her increased interest in your life is an attempt to reconcile with you, by proving she still cares about you and remembers your goals and aspirations and things that matter to you. If you have been seeing other women, she will gauge to see how further it has gone and what are her chances to come back to your life. At this stage, she will patiently know everything about you and make her move when she deems fit.

3. A woman who regrets losing you will show interest in making plans with you

After setting a pace of casual conversation with you, she will be keen in making plans to hang out with you. She might just randomly ask you to meet for coffee at the cafe you both made some memories in the past. Or she may ask you to watch a movie with her because none of her friends are free. The idea is to get to spend time with you and understand if you are interested in rekindling the broken relationship.

At this point, she will not ask you directly, but look for non-verbal cues that make her feel you are as keen to get back with her, as she is to get back with you.

4. She will apologize for her mistakes

Once she feels you are on a similar path like her, her dumpers remorse will surface. Where she once felt angry and agitated, she will now start to reflect on the positive aspects of your relationship. She is now doubtful of her decision of letting you down, and to make up for it, she will start to apologize for her mistakes.

She will try to own her mistakes, give you reasons why she acted the way she did, ask for forgiveness, and may hint that she is awfully sorry for hurting you. She will tell you she is a different person now. These are some signs she regrets hurting you, and wants to make amends with you.

If you are wondering how long does it take for signs of female dumpers regret to surface, there is again no dedicated timeline, though the general consensus is it takes a few weeks for a female dumper to doubt her decision and want you back.

5. She will often bring up past memories

When a woman realizes she lost a good man, she will direct all efforts at winning him back. Part of the efforts will be to take you down the memory lane, revisit special places and moments, and being extra kind to you. The takeaway is- she wants you to think about the positive memories, feel bad about the breakup, and drive you to give her and the relationship a second chance. The more you spend time with her, the more she will make you realize how great life was when you two were together. 

6. She tells you how unhappy she is

One of the strong signs she broke up with you and regrets it is when she starts to tell you how unhappy she is in her currently “happily married” life. She confides in you how her current partner mistreats her, or how she feels not loved anymore. She may cry her heart to you and tell you how leaving you has been the worst decision she ever made. 

The focus here is to make you feel bad for her, and she will drive home the point that she was wrong to think she could be happy without you. Even if she is your ex wife, these are some signs she regrets divorcing you because now she understands how good you were to her.

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7. Showing jealousy is a sign your ex misses you

You are not together, but the moment she sees you talking to other women, or sees you with someone else, she will be jealous. But because you are not together anymore, she cannot directly ask you not to be with other women. So she will:

• Tell you how she always thought you were worthy of someone great
• Remind you that you are in a crucial stage of your career, and you should not get distracted
• Might pull out some bad points about the woman/women you are with, just to put them down

Basically, she cannot tolerate you being with someone else, so in order to not show her displeasure directly, she will create situations where you start detesting the other females and think of her as your ultimate well-wisher. Talk about female vamps!

8. She tries hard to get your attention

Now that she has established a rapport with you and feels you trust her enough, she wants to draw your attention toward her. She does not just want you to think of her as a friend or a well-wisher, she wants more. In order to make you take note of her hidden agendas, she will:

• Wear your favorite colors and dress to kill to make you feel attracted toward her
• Talk to you in flirty and seductive undertones
• Smiles at you often
• Keeps herself engaged with your life and keeps on telling you her life’s updates

You will often find her trying to gain your attention by acting differently. These efforts are directed at you mainly because she regrets losing the relationship with you.

9. She stays single

One of the signs she regrets breaking off with you is when she chooses to remain single even though she could have many opportunities to get into a new relationship. This is because she still thinks you two can get together even after breaking up. She stays single to let you know that she is still waiting for you and regrets her decision to let you go.

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10. She involves her friends to convince you

What does a woman do when she wants her ex back? Well, if she feels your friends have great influence on you, she asks them to communicate with you She involves mutual friends to:

• Know whether you still miss her
• To make them spy on your relationship status
• To make them drop a good word about you
• To remind you of memories with you

This way, she gets to know whether there is a chance of you taking her back, and also estimates the efforts she needs to make to get you back. If your friends approve of her, they will want the both of to be together and so will just play along; after all, that is what friends do.

11. She often stalks you

And not just online, but offline as well. Not only does she keep a tab on your online activities, the pictures and posts you like and comment on, but you also keep bumping into her at places like supermarkets and cafes. And no, it is not coincidental, but a well-planned, well-executed plan to catch your attention and make you notice her. 

However, if her stalking is bothering you, you may choose to confront her the next time she tells you she visits the bar often which is like 2 hours away from her home. Yes, there is a lot cooking there!

12. Her social media is all about you

How does she make you notice her? By making sure you visit her social media profiles and see what she wants to show you. She will tag you in quotes, pictures and posts and share updates where she can see your reactions. She may also try to sneak into your DMs and keep on asking your views on a post or a reel. 

These are some signs your ex is letting you go and is looking for a second chance to be with you.

13. She often checks on you

Did you have a bout of fever last week? Or you missed that flight to Texas to visit your parents? Since she is keeping tabs on you and is taking information from your friends, she knows all that is happening with you. And to make sure that you keep on talking to her, she frequently checks on you. You may notice that:

• She supports you, no matter what
• She keeps complimenting you, indicating she still finds you handsome and genuinely misses you
• She offers you advice, even though she knows you are not keen on asking her
• She will help you in whichever she she can – whether its your professional life or personal, without you having to ask her

Now what could it mean when an ex checks on you regularly? Of course, she is keen to be back with you and regrets parting ways. The more she remains in touch with you, the better her chances.

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14. She keeps you involved in her life

What are the signs the dumper wants you back? When an ex wants you to know they are making efforts to be better, and keep you involved in their life. They want you to know that they are working on their weak areas, are positively trying to be better, and still look for your advice and opinions on the decisions they make. Here’s when you should take the hint:

• She starts to share her personal and professional achievements with you
• She asks for your opinions on matters important to her
• She will seek your advice on important subject, giving you importance in her life
• She tells you how she has been focusing on her personal growth to be a better person

By doing these things, she wants you to know she still values your judgment and thinks you still think better for her. If she has, one of the signs she regrets cheating will be when she tries to convince you she has now placed all her trust in you, and likewise will never go down that path again.

If the reason for your breakup was infidelity, we suggest you take your time to heal and may even ask her to not contact you till the time you feel comfortable talking to her. Some hurtful episodes of betrayal sometimes even require professional counseling. Do not shy away from help.

15. She reconnects with your friends and family

In her attempts to reconcile with you, she will reconnect with the people most important to you – your family and close friends. She will apologize for the breakup, yet keep on charming them with her carefully planned moves to be in their good books. 

No matter how different they are, she will make sincere efforts to get them to like her. You might see her frequenting social gatherings of your friends and family, and everyone praising her. A woman who wants her ex back will resort to all tricks and one of them will be to make your friends and family recommend her.

16. She tries to woo you

She does not want to keep it a secret that she has been eyeing you. From playful teases to accidentally brushing by you, she tries to woo you by making seductive moves on you. You might often catch her shooting short glances at you.

Notice her body language. Does she keep running her fingers through her hair? Does she get very close to you when you are talking? Have you seen her licking her lips when you are around? There is no second thought about it, she is trying to seduce you to get you back in her life.

17. She tells you she has been approached by many men

In order to make sure that you know she is still desirable, she tells you that many potential men have approached her for an alliance. She may give you some of their details like career and wealth to make your jealous. She will tell you that she still chooses to be single.

So why is she not entering a relationship, you may ask? The answer is straightforward – she wants you to ask her to come back to your life. She is here trying to use reverse psychology to her benefit and indirectly pressurizing you to make a decision quickly.

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18. She asks you hypothetical questions

Not every woman is very forthcoming with her needs, and if your ex was a shy one, she may choose a slightly different way to get her way back in your life. Once some rapport is established and you both start talking as friends, she may shoot hypothetical questions your way to know where she stands in your life. So if you are wondering about the signs she regrets losing you but is scared to ask you directly, this could be it.

19. She shows you her vulnerable side

It is not easy for anyone to open up. But when a woman is really set on a man she wants, she does not hesitate to be vulnerable with him. When she opens up about her deepest fears, her traumas and her desires to you, be aware that she has placed a lot of trust in you. It is a huge sign a woman regrets breaking up with you and realizes it was a mistake to let you go.

20. Signs she regrets not choosing you – she reminisces about the past

If you have been wondering whether or not she regrets not choosing you, then look for the below cues:

• She keeps sending you pictures of your happy times, tagging you with captions like “best time of my life”
• She posts a lot of statuses where she indirectly asks you for forgiveness. This is actually a sign she knows she messed up and is now trying to make amends
• She talks to you about the best times you had with her as a couple
• She tells you how no one else came any closer to loving her as you loved her
• She often shares how much she regrets the break up or the divorce with you, mentioning how grateful she’d be if given another chance
• She regrets taking the relationship for granted and wants to be significant again in your life

If you too feel the same, we suggest you talk it out with her. Women often feel it might be disadvantageous asking a guy out, and are more comfortable if guys make the first move.

21. She says the ultimate “I love you” to you

Do we need say more? She has confessed her love for you and there is no denying the fact that she cares about you and the relationship more than ever. She regrets losing you and has realized your value in her life. 

Let us tell you, it takes a lot of guts of admit your mistakes, and if she has been begging you for another chance, and confessed that she loves you with all her heart, it means she really wants you back. She has put aside her ego, other prospects and just wants to know a way that will lead her back to your life and your heart.

The ultimate decision of letting her back in your life, is yours of course.

We recommend you weigh your feelings for your ex, voice out your concerns, revisit the reasons as to why your relationship did not work earlier and then take a call. It might be a good idea to take help from a professional counselor and make sure you are not re-entering this relationship because you miss your ex and are lonely, but because you really want to be with her and give her a second chance.

As they say, sometimes, we all deserve a second chance at making things right.