7 Signs His New Girlfriend Is Jealous Of You And What To Do

Are you looking for signs his new girlfriend is jealous of you? It reminds me of the song, I Hate U,I Love U by gnash, where the lyrics go, “All alone, I watch you watch her, Like she’s the only girl you’ve ever seen, You don’t care, you never did, You don’t give a damn about me…”

That’s exactly what your ex’s new girlfriend is feeling right now! She wants him to start with a clean slate but cannot stop worrying about the ghost of his ex, YOU. Even though she tries to convince herself he has fully moved on, a part of her still keeps second-guessing it. At that moment, she feels a burning sensation in her stomach. No, it’s not acidity! It’s pangs of jealousy. 

If you’ve noticed some signs that she might be struggling with jealousy, here are 7 clear signs to look out for and what to do.

7 Signs His New Girlfriend Is Jealous Of You 

In psychology, this feeling is referred to as ‘Retroactive jealousy’. It happens when someone feels their partner still cares about something from their past, and they fear that this could take their love away. 

Sporadic retroactive jealousy is possible on finding out their partner hasn’t let go of past memories. For example, if the partner still keep photos or souvenirs of an ex around the house or compares the current relationship to previous ones, it will be very natural for the present girlfriend to feel insecure and even hate you at times.

So, if you’re wondering, “Is my ex’s new girlfriend jealous of me?”, we’ve got you covered. Here are 7 signs that clearly show her jealousy and what you should do:

1. She is obsessed with stalking you on social media

Is she the first one to view all your stories? Or accidentally liked a picture from 10 years ago? This obsessive behavior is a clear sign she is jealous. Her lurking your profile and constantly refreshing your feed isn’t just a sign of curiosity; it means she is clearly fixated on you!

When my ex moved on and I was still struggling with the breakup, I did break my character and did some things I am not proud of. I used to screenshot his girlfriend’s posts and send them to my friends, asking if she was prettier than me. I became obsessed with over analyzing their relationship through social media, trying to pick apart how he treated her. Looking back, I can see now that I was just extremely insecure and hurt over the breakup.

What to do: Focus on your own well-being. Block her if necessary. Don’t let her insecurities consume your time or mental space. 

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2. She tries to gather information about you from mutual friends

If your mutual friends tell you she is investigating behind your back, it shows that your ex’s new girlfriend is jealous of you after the breakup. Here are some examples of the types of questions she might be asking:

• “What were they like as a couple?”
• “Are they still on talking terms?”
• “Do you think she is over him?”
• “Is she dating anyone now?”
• “Did she ever do anything crazy or dramatic?”

What to do: Tell your friends to politely decline sharing any personal information. No one is obligated to entertain her curiosity about your past or present. They should treat her with respect but maintain their boundaries over divulgence of information about you two as a couple

3. She tries sabotaging your friendship with him

Is your ex playing a game of block and unblock with you? One moment, he is civil with you, checking up on you. And the next moment, he tells you his girlfriend is not comfortable with your friendship. It’s evident that she is trying to erase you out of his life completely.

She may even plant doubts in his head that you have ulterior motives to get back together with him. Her goal is simple: to ensure you both keep a distance and cut off all communication. Period. 

What to do: Set boundaries with your ex, if necessary. Stay civil but don’t let her control the narrative. Cut ties if it becomes too toxic. 

4. She acts overly protective of him when you are around

Is she always marking her territory by being too physically intimate? Constantly asserting her presence to make sure you’re not a threat? Trying to make it clear she’s the one in control now? Girl, calm down! We know he is yours now. But these over-the-top actions are clear signs his new girlfriend is jealous of you:

• Kissing him when you both are conversing
• Putting her arms around him, especially when you’re watching
• Talking about how good the relationship is to rub it on your face

What to do: Avoid reacting to her attention-seeking behavior. Remain respectful but distant. Show confidence in your own worth. 

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5. She compares herself to you – and keeps boasting about it

Your friends might tell you that she keeps saying she’s a better girlfriend than his ex. Whether it is the way you dressed or the food you eat, she keeps telling everyone how she is better than you. Or she passes comments like, “Oh, she’s freelancing. For me, I need a full-time job to feel a sense of purpose!” The point is to make others look down upon you.

These comparisons aren’t just casual remarks. They are signs his new girlfriend is insecure and keeps trying to prove her superiority over you. She feels the need to prove to herself, and everyone else, that she’s the better partner.

What to do: When she tries to compare, don’t engage in any conversation. Remind yourself that the real problem is her insecurities, not you. You have moved on. It’s high time she does too.

6. She becomes passive aggressive around you

She might act friendly on the surface but her facade of politeness is just an act. She’s trying to mask her jealousy underneath. Here are some examples of passive-aggressive comments you might hear:

• “Hey, have you gained weight since the last time we met?”
• “Aren’t you a little overdressed for this party?”
• “Oh, you’re drunk already! I knew you couldn’t handle your alcohol”

What to do: Don’t fall into the trap of being provoked. Ignore her backhanded remarks. Stay calm and composed. If you react to her digs, she’s already gotten the response she wanted.

7. She tries to mimic you

Remember the show Euphoria? Remember how Cassy turned into a carbon copy of Maddie when she started dating Nate? That’s exactly what we are talking about!

If you notice her copying your mannerisms, hairstyle or fashion choices, it’s clear she is trying to replicate you. Perhaps he is not over you yet and in order to save her relationship, she is acting like you. Yes, imitation can be flattering sometimes but this is her way of feeling closer to him by imitating what he admired in you.

What to do: Don’t waste your energy trying to outshine her. Continue being your own authentic, confident self. She is just trying to find her own identity, in relation to yours. 

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Why Is My Ex’s New Girlfriend Jealous Of Me?

If you keep wondering, “Why is his new girlfriend jealous of me?”, several factors could be fueling this jealousy:

• She was betrayed by her past boyfriends: Due to the history of being cheated on, she likely struggles with trusts issues, which heighten her suspicion
• Your ex is not reassuring enough: He mentions you way too much in conversations, often comparing you to her
• You’re connected with your ex: You’re still meeting him, commenting on his posts and liking all his stories, which causes her discomfort
• He is so emotionally unavailable: Still hurting from the breakup, he struggles to be fully being vulnerable with her 

In fact, even a 2017 study on romantic jealousy found that this emotion is often rooted in insecurity, low self-esteem, insecure attachment styles or past experiences of infidelity. In some cases, romantic jealousy is also linked to substance use, health challenges associated with hormonal fluctuations or chronic medical conditions (like Parkinson’s disease).

So, at the root of her jealousy lies pain. It could be the pain of thinking she isn’t good enough. Or the fear of losing her boyfriend. She may be constantly comparing herself to you, worrying that she won’t measure up or that she’ll lose his attention to someone from his past. This insecurity can be overwhelming, and often, it manifests as jealousy.

Finally, if you’ve noticed any of these 7 signs his new girlfriend is jealous of you, remind yourself that her jealousy is a reflection of her fear and insecurities and has little to do with you. It’s best to maintain personal boundaries and not let her behavior affect your peace of mind. 

Her behavior is not under your control. What you can control is how you respond to it. So, prioritize your own well-being above everything else. Keep moving forward, confident in the knowledge that you have moved on from your past and so should she.